Second Date with Rufio Part 2

We talked for about another 30 minutes. Just like what we thought when first saw each other, movies we like and stuff like that. Then he asked if I wanted to make out? It came out of nowhere but I like that he was direct and didn’t beat around the bush. So we start to make out. It’s a little awkward at first and he’s laughing. I told him if you don’t stop laughing this isn’t going to happen. I know, harsh but he was making me nervous and it had been awhile since I kissed someone. He gets the giggles out and we actually go at it for a long ass time. He got on top of me and I got on top of him. We’re lying down then we’re back up.

I have to say he’s a great kisser and he has the best lips ever. He knows how to take control and give it up when needed. I already said before how I love to kiss so I was just enjoying doing that. He then put his hands on my package and was like I want us to jack off together. I was horny and I like him so I said ok. So we get to it and it’s amazing. He definitely knows what he is doing and I’m not sure if that’s a good thing or bad thing. Anyway we finish and I head home. He texts that same night saying how we should hang out again soon. I said yeah and mentioned something about how sexy his lips are. They’re so freaking hot! I couldn’t get enough of them.

So that’s where we are now. Even though I wanted to wait a little longer to do what we did. I’m glad it happened and I don’t regret it at all. I’m still just kind of whatever about the situation. Of course, I want a boyfriend! That has been my mission for the past ummmm…my whole life!!!! I don’t want to get too attached and become needy, I know myself and he’s off to New York in a few months. So no need to put myself through the heartache. Tell me about it!

Second Date with Rufio

I had another date with Rufio. He’s having minor surgery and he wanted to hang out before because he’s going to be out of commission for a week or so. He texted me saying if I wanted to come over and watch a movie at his place and I love movies, so I said of course. I was a little apprehensive about going to his place because two young attractive gay guys in a dark place with no one else there…I wonder what could happened. Don’t get me wrong, I can control myself in terms of going all the way, but I love to kiss and do other stuff and I wasn’t sure if I wanted to go there quite yet.

Anyway I went over to his place and he put on the movie The Last House on the Left. I had never seen it but knew the basic premise. It’s kind of a scary suspense type of movie. Even though, I usually don’t go for those types of movies I really enjoyed it and I couldn’t take my eyes of the television screen. He noticed and was like you were really into it and I said yeah I wasn’t expecting it to be that good. After the movie we did the whole small talk thing and he showed me some of his work, he’s an aspiring photographer, kind of hot right? As we were talking he asked me to tell him about my first “gay experience”. To be honest I didn’t know what the hell he meant and I kinda blurted out, “you mean sex?”…haha I’m such a dork! He said yeah and I told umm…I haven’t had much experience and I’ve never had like sexual intercourse, who freakin says that? He was kind of surprised and he was like but you have had sex with a girl right?

I said nope, I’m very pure and innocent, not completely but it is fun to say. While he was surprised he didn’t seem too shocked and I, feeling a little too vulnerable for my liking, flipped the question on to him. He talked about his first time and how he should have waited and his previous boyfriends. The best part though is how he said he thinks he has jungle fever. I was like what?!?! I don’t like that phrase at all! I wanted to be like sweetie I am not Wesley Snipes and this isn’t a Spike Lee joint so…but I didn’t go there. I told him to elaborate because I’m not perfect and maybe I misunderstood. He went on to say that a lot of his friends are black and that after his last boyfriend, who was black, he only as eyes for us black boys now.

He actually said something that was very interesting to me. He mentioned how when he goes on dates with white guys at the end if they say they weren’t attracted to him in that way that he just moves on, but with black guys he finds that he doesn’t have that issue so that’s why he keeps coming back to us. Now I know I am over-analytical and I have a lot of self-discovery to do, but what I took from that is that us black guys tend to settle for whatever comes our way. Which sucks because I do find him attractive. I don’t know maybe I’m reading too much into what he’s saying. Well I didn’t expect this to be so long so I’ll make a part two later on. Tell me about it!

My Third Date!

I had my third date this Friday! Yay! I can’t wait until I can stop remembering how many date’s I’ve been on ; P. Like I said I met this guy online and he seems pretty cool, we’ll call him Rufio! I texted him and we just started talking some. We decided that we should go to the movies. One thing about me though is that I am a control freak! I like to be in control or at least feel like I am. We decided that we would meet at 8. So I leave my house around 7:35 just to make sure I’m on time. I stop by the store to pick up some gum and I get a text saying let me know when you are leaving. I replied I already left. He replies already! I say we said 8 right? I was kind of upset but I was like whatevs. He said he would leave his house in 5 minutes. So I get to the mall and I have a little time so I go into target and read magazines. He gets there like 10 minutes later. I go over to meet him and he’s pretty cute. He actually mumbled under his breath “You’re so cute”…haha that made me laugh. I don’t take compliments well at all but I liked that he said it. He’s tall, dark and very handsome. His ethnicity is Asian and he dresses really trendy. So we chat about what movie we should see. Of course, I want to see G.I. Joe! He wanted to see Orphan. I said we can see that if you want, but he said G.I. Joe was ok. Thank God! We start talking as we stand in line and he’s really funny and we had a great conversation going. He’s moving to New York soon, there goes any chance of anything long-term, so he’s excited about that.

We walk up to pay and he says wait. I thought he was going to pay for me…haha No, he had coupons and he gave me one. So cute! I don’t know how you guys feel about coupons on the first date, but I didn’t mind it at all. I thought it was very sweet to offer me one and in this harsh economic climate I like someone who knows how to save a few bucks. So we get our tickets. I asked him if he wanted to walk around before the movie. He’s like what time does the movie start? I said 9:40. He said I thought we were getting the 8:15 one. I said its 8:20! This is where the control freak takes over. I like being early to the movies. I like being able to pick the best seats. I like watching the previews. This is our first date so I played nice and say let’s exchange our tickets. We do and head in. The theatre was packed and we had to sit in the very front. See! The movie was awesome anyway. Channing Tatum is still sexy, I wasn’t sure after I saw some fat pics of him not too long ago. Marlon Waynes is so funny and actually looks pretty good with his shirt off. Sienna Miller was actually very fierce and I loved her. Surprise! Seeing as I thought she was a husband stealing whore who couldn’t act. With that being said Rufio didn’t seem to into the movie and the girl next to me was freaking annoying. He said he liked it and it was better than he thought it was going to be. As we leave the theatre I realize I have to pee soooooooooo bad. I say I have to use the restroom and he says so do I! STOP! I’m new to the whole dating thing so forgive me. I felt so weird going into the same restroom as my date. Yeah we are both guys but it’s just funny I guess. We are outside now and I say do you want to do something else? He says I don’t know it’s late and I don’t know what’s open. I say hmmm….you’re right! We go back and forth for a minute deciding what’s open. He says I know a yogurt place but it’s kind of far. I say let do it! I offer to drive and we head up there. I’m amazed how good the convo is and the fact that I’m not nervous. We get some yogurt and we head back to drop him off at his car.

All in all the date was good. Oh! Did I mention he was 18? I’m 22 and my friend Crystal says I should date someone older. To be honest I just want to date and as long as they’re legal I’m ok. He texted me the next day and I actually texted him back…haha I don’t have butterflies or anything so we’ll see how it goes.

Possible Date

So, I might have a date for this Friday night. I'm not sure at the moment becuase... Well let me start from the beginning. I created a few profiles on some gay websites to maybe meet some guys. I got a message from one guy saying we should hook up! He was kind of cute so I replied "yeah, we should go out sometime". I don't know what he meant my hooking up but I decided that I'm going to take as we should hang out :). Anyway, he said what would you like to do? I said dinner, movie, bowling or anything would be good. I think he was surprised because he responded "Are you real?" I couldn't help but feel a litte weird but it still made me laugh. Well he gave me his number and said text him sometime. Which I like because he kind of put the ball in my court. I'm going to text him tomorrow sometime to see wuts up with him. I do want to date more, but I'm not paying for him. I think we should both pay for ourselves unless he would like to treat me : ). Back to the "Are you real?" comment. Do gay guys not date? Is that why I'm not having any luck? I'm just curious because "hooking up" is not an option for me at this point in my love life. I want to hear from you out there. Are you guys dating? Are you hooking up? If you are dating, have you had any lasting relationships? Tell me about it!

Major Music: When Love Takes Over!

This is the video for When Love Takes Over by David Guetta feat. Kelly Rowland. I'm not really familiar with David, but I hear he is a very popular Frecnh DJ and he is know worldwide for his work. The song is so simple and I think we can all realate to when love takes over even if hasn't happened to some of us : P. Kelly sounds amazing on the track and the video has really fun vibe. Check it out!

Guilty Pleasure: Miami Social

Miami Social is one of my favorite shows at the moment. It's so superficial and has nothing to offer in terms of higher intellect, BUT I can't get enough of it. I love Katrina, the sexy soon to be divorcee who's career is her main focus as opposed to her sexy ass soon to be ex-husband, Ben, and you better believe if she doesn't realize what she has soon, I'll take him right from under her. Then there is "good" gay, Michael, who is looking for love in all the wrong places. Like his trainer who happens to be in a relationship, poor thing! If there is a "good" gay then there has to be an "evil" gay right? RIGHT!
His name is Ariel and he is tooooo much! He's more of big spoiled snob than just plain old evil but he gets on my last nerve so evil he will be. Of course there's Hardy, what happened? Google Big Brother 2 Hardy and you'll see what I mean. He's dating Trixia and she is just annoying! From her fake blond roots to her high winy ass voice. Then you have George and his pants slashing love, Lina(this girl is all kinds of krazy). The there is Geroge's ex-wife who is so freaking beautiful(George is a stupid man), Sorah, who is dating hot doctor Gonazallo(total gay face). hmmmmmmmmmmmmm have touched on everyone? OH! Maria! She is a single mom who's daughter is at boarding school to get a better "education" whatevs. Personally, who wants to parent 24-7 when you can pay to have someone take care of your spawn. I can't blame her. That's all for now. Check it out on Bravo Tuesday nights @ 10:00pm. And don't forget to tell me about it!

Boy Culture!

This is the movie I briefly mentioned in the last post. Boy Culture stars Derek Magyar and Noah's Arc hottie Darryl Stephens. I don't want to give anything way but it is fun story about a gay male escort and how he fell in love . Check it out!

1st Date

Hey guys! So I wanted to tell you a little about my first date. So I was in my favorite store with some friends shopping. The guy who was ringing us up says to my friend Crystal, "Is that your boyfriend?" She says, "No, but he's a good looking guy and in another life maybe!" He says, "Oh, he's very attractive...." finally I was like ok let's go. I didn't get a really good look at the guy because I was so embarrased. When we got to the car my friends were like he was hitting on you and you didn't even give him the time of day. I said whatever it wasn't meant to be and left at that. They took upon themselves to go back and give him my number. So he texts me and he wants to take me out on a date. I say ok and I get kind of excited. So I ask my friends if he was cute because I didn't really get a good look at him. They say he was and that eases my nerves a little bit.

So date night is here finally here. I go and pick him up because he doesn't drive and he happens to be in his late 20's. I thought that was kind of strange seeing as I'm 22 and I'm driving this man around, but that's just me. So as soon as he gets into the car I want to end the date. He's not at all what I expected. I didn't find him attractive at all. So we start talking and the conversation is horrible. We get to the restaurant and we sit down. I was so uncomfortable I wanted to run as fast as I could. I stayed and tried to make the best of the situation. The worst part was the waiter who came over to fix the light over are table was way hotter than my date and I think he was hitting on me but of course I'm to dense to realize that at the time. We get our food and I focus on just eating. He's eating and I'm getting more turned off. He's slurping is soup and he ordered pizza. I don't think I'm being picky but this is the first date it would be nice if he tried to impress me. I would do the same if I was really interested in someone. He asks me if I want to go to the beach after this, I politely said no. I don't wanna drive all over the city with a guy I don't even like.

We head downtown and he goes into a store to buy some movies. He says he doesn't go out much and just likes to stay in and watch movies. That's cool I love movies but he's into these old school horror movies. I couldn't relate and I was turned off yet again. The night didn't completely suck becuase I found this great movie I've been dying to see. Boy Culture!!! I couldn't believe it. I was so happy and totally forgot about the horrible date I was on. We buy our movies and go out to walk around. We decide to go and get some ice cream. As we were standing in line I became really embarrassed. There are all these young cute kids around and I am with this guy who I'm not into at all. I just felt out of place with him. We go to order and he knocks over the little menu stand. OMG!!! I understand this was our first date and he was nervous but that was it for me. After we finished I said I was done for the night. I took him home and he lived like 4o mins. away from downtown. He said he had a good time and that we should do it again. I said um...maybe, then I put my hand out and shook his hand to avoid an awkward hug. This was apparently was lost on him. He leaned in and gave me a hung anyway. He got out, I stepped on the gas and gunned it out of there. He texted me the next day but I didn't respond. I dind't want to lead him on and a the time I thought that this was the best way to end things.

Ok, so I after reading this I know I sounds kind of like a bitch! I think we have all had bad dates and my first happend to be one of them. I want to konw what you guys think. What could I have done differently? Have you had a similar experience?...tell me about it!