Second Date with Rufio

I had another date with Rufio. He’s having minor surgery and he wanted to hang out before because he’s going to be out of commission for a week or so. He texted me saying if I wanted to come over and watch a movie at his place and I love movies, so I said of course. I was a little apprehensive about going to his place because two young attractive gay guys in a dark place with no one else there…I wonder what could happened. Don’t get me wrong, I can control myself in terms of going all the way, but I love to kiss and do other stuff and I wasn’t sure if I wanted to go there quite yet.

Anyway I went over to his place and he put on the movie The Last House on the Left. I had never seen it but knew the basic premise. It’s kind of a scary suspense type of movie. Even though, I usually don’t go for those types of movies I really enjoyed it and I couldn’t take my eyes of the television screen. He noticed and was like you were really into it and I said yeah I wasn’t expecting it to be that good. After the movie we did the whole small talk thing and he showed me some of his work, he’s an aspiring photographer, kind of hot right? As we were talking he asked me to tell him about my first “gay experience”. To be honest I didn’t know what the hell he meant and I kinda blurted out, “you mean sex?”…haha I’m such a dork! He said yeah and I told umm…I haven’t had much experience and I’ve never had like sexual intercourse, who freakin says that? He was kind of surprised and he was like but you have had sex with a girl right?

I said nope, I’m very pure and innocent, not completely but it is fun to say. While he was surprised he didn’t seem too shocked and I, feeling a little too vulnerable for my liking, flipped the question on to him. He talked about his first time and how he should have waited and his previous boyfriends. The best part though is how he said he thinks he has jungle fever. I was like what?!?! I don’t like that phrase at all! I wanted to be like sweetie I am not Wesley Snipes and this isn’t a Spike Lee joint so…but I didn’t go there. I told him to elaborate because I’m not perfect and maybe I misunderstood. He went on to say that a lot of his friends are black and that after his last boyfriend, who was black, he only as eyes for us black boys now.

He actually said something that was very interesting to me. He mentioned how when he goes on dates with white guys at the end if they say they weren’t attracted to him in that way that he just moves on, but with black guys he finds that he doesn’t have that issue so that’s why he keeps coming back to us. Now I know I am over-analytical and I have a lot of self-discovery to do, but what I took from that is that us black guys tend to settle for whatever comes our way. Which sucks because I do find him attractive. I don’t know maybe I’m reading too much into what he’s saying. Well I didn’t expect this to be so long so I’ll make a part two later on. Tell me about it!